tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5423246142401100316.post2568068437634522059..comments2023-05-06T08:14:45.112-06:00Comments on Humble Fiction Cafe: Family tiesHumble Fiction Cafehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07289017652145630267noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5423246142401100316.post-11242911036397924992008-03-28T08:24:00.000-06:002008-03-28T08:24:00.000-06:00Concern for the feelings of family members is a bi...Concern for the feelings of family members is a big problem even when there is nothing about THEM in the work. I'm often hobbled by concerns for possible embarressment to my family and friends when I consider writing something that might stray from their perception of me or my role as wife, mother, grandmother, daughter, sister... A loving and involved family can be a two edged sword for a writer.Joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10323276158126153696noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5423246142401100316.post-505061639708567022008-03-26T14:34:00.000-06:002008-03-26T14:34:00.000-06:00Hi Kelli, I'm new here:)In reading your post, I ju...Hi Kelli, I'm new here:)<BR/><BR/>In reading your post, I just thought that yes, you're probably right in most circumstances...trying to write about people you know can be very disconcerting:) And as you said, writing about WHAT you know is very different than writing about WHO you know:)<BR/>Stephen King addresses writing about what you know in his On Writing...what you know can be something you've researched also, not just what's touched your life...<BR/>I think you felt compelled to write this and so you should have, but as you mentioned, we all have to weigh the costs of what we write.<BR/>It's also amazing how many people think that what you write about is either from something that happened to you, or someone you knew...I've even had one man ask if it was to "get even" with someone in my life.:) The character he was speaking of is a psychopath:)I doubt very seriously I would have lived to tell the tale if I HAD known him:)<BR/>I think your family did very well with it, and it shows that they do care about YOU more than their own feelings...which is a wonderful quality:)<BR/>Congratulations on the piece..and on having a solid support group in your family!<BR/><BR/>LorettaLoretta Wheelerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07992133163167526850noreply@blogger.com